I remember sitting under a teaching a few years back about how our posture as a disciple of Jesus Christ should be with one hand stretched upwards to someone in a mentoring capacity.. to someone who is further along in their walk with The Lord than us. Meanwhile, the other arm reaches down, ‘pulling up’, encouraging & discipling someone coming along behind us. Someone that is a little further back in their walk with The Lord than where we are.
The person you’re reaching up to has a little more life experience than you, so is able to teach and help you through similar situations. In turn, you can teach & help the one you are encouraging, because of the trials, struggles and victories you have walked through.
I also remember receiving an image about this, back when sitting under that teaching, of one long road with people littered all along it, all at different stages. I probably should have drawn in it seeing as I wasn’t able to find something that I felt represented it, but this gives you an idea.
When I had this come to mind last night, the Holy Spirit gave me an image of a seesaw, but it wasn’t like one end was completely up and the other completely down…. it’s not normally positioned in that way, and I don’t believe it would be nearly as effective either. I think the image of a set of scales where one end has a slightly heavier weight onboard than the other shows a more accurate picture of the common situation, but as the ‘weight’ part of the image makes no sense, I think the seesaw is better.
This one is more like it.
The person reaching down needs to have the HUMILITY required to fulfil this role in another’s life, while also having the WISDOM to take on this responsibility.
Something that simple cannot be in the equation is pridefulness !!!
Just because I like definitions, let’s look at some now…
First, a ‘secular’ definition of Humility –the quality of having a modest or low view of one’s importance. While in essence, this is true, I don’t like it one bit as it doesn’t sit well with me when you consider that we are a temple of The Holy Spirit. We have the power of Christ within us, so when I consider our ROLE in God’s Kingdom, we certainly do not have a low level of importance. I guess what it comes down to though is the importance of that role, as opposed to the importance of us as a person. That’s where the pridefulness can come into it. If we are prideful about our own importance & think that that importance is seperate to God, that’s when we will run into trouble.
A biblical definition of Humility –God says when you are humble, you are free from pride and arrogance. You know that in your flesh you are inadequate, yet you also know who you are in Christ. I LOVE this !!! So so true !! Free from pride & arrogance !!
Now for Wisdom… the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgement; the quality of being wise.
Not bad…. let’s look at it from a biblical point of view though.
Wisdom begins and ends with the fear of the Lord. It isn’t a fear of being struck by lightning or fear of being struck dead but it’s a deep, abiding, holy reverence and respect for the Lord and for His Word, the Bible. The Book of Proverbs has more to say about wisdom than any other book in the Bible. For example in Proverbs 9:10 Solomon, who was the wisest man on earth, at least until Christ came, said that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” Where there is fear, there tends to be obedience and God has said He prefers obedience over sacrifice (1 Sam 15:22; Hosea 6:6). Sometimes obedience comes before understanding and when someone obeys what they know to be true, understanding usually follows. Wisdom begins with reverence for God and a fear for Him and His Word. That’s where wisdom begins. Where there is no fear of the Lord, there can never be any true wisdom. It’s just not possible.
Now, both these two traits can be tricky, and not always easy to uphold, especially in weakness during struggle. It takes real DISCIPLINE to be HUMBLE & use WISDOM to take the right path when in a struggle or under attack.
Two other words that I really think needs to come into the scenario is COMMITMENT & RESPONSIBILITY !! We need to be there for our ‘person’ at all times, even at times of our own struggles. The only way we can do that is by walking closely with The Lord, digging into The Word & being accountable.
As a mentor, your role is to teach and inspire by words and example, so you can come alongside someone in their personal development and learning development using your life, Christian experiences, and education as tools.. You are a role model to someone. This is a precious responsibility that is to be taken seriously, but also enjoyed. You need to be one who is growing in the Lord, and who takes His Word and precepts to heart and to life. Because someone is placing his or her trust as a counselor and teacher in you, you need to be real and growing to do this right. Therefore, you are the one the Lord will use to provide opportunities for spiritual learning, development, and growth.
Matthew 12:36 & 37 tell us … I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak, for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.” Words hold power peeps.. in so many ways, so be careful with your words !!!
If The Lord entrusts you with a ‘mentee’ (that’s probs not actually a word, but you know what I mean) then see it as the privilege that it is, and ENJOY it, but never ignore the commitment and the responsibility that goes along with it.
Oh.. and one last thing…. DO NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS RESPONSIBILITY !! Treat it as the GIFT that it is. You will grow through every moment as a mentor too… it’s not a one-way deal. Another thing that has been evident in my walk and I believe I can pass onto others and it be of help, is this… When God leads you in a different direction… be it towards a different person, or away from a person…. LISTEN TO HIM & ACT ON IT !!
Maybe you will be in a mentor type relationship with someone for a very long time, but often you will not. People with this need or gifting come in & out of our lives at GOD’S will, not ours !!! We may be of help, or receive help from someone for a season and that be all God intended for each of our journeys. When that happens… seek confirmation from Him.. and then accept & move on, being ever watchful for new doors being opened.
Isn’t it FUN being a child of God !!!!! Seriously, I LOVE IT !!!! So much to learn, grow in and become !!!!
Blessings peeps !!! xox