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Royalty, Wife, Mummy, friend, teacher, student & fitness blogger


March 2016

Guard your heart. .. and your face

I had my first boxing PT sesh yesturday and it was THEBOMB.COM !! Such a fun way to workout. 


If you really look closely you can tell I’m laughing in the above pic. .. it was way fun to power out some energy.
What most struck my though was after each jab, hook, or whatever you were doing,  you need to come back to ‘guard’ which is basically protecting your face. 

You’d think it’d be a fairly natural thing to do,  to want to protect your face,  but Mel, my PT, had to keep reminding me.   I kinda had it by the end,  but it got me thinking later about Proverbs 4 :23 Guard your heart with all vigilance, for from it are the sources of life.

Mel was saying that it’s very common to guard your chest. . And while it makes more sense to guard your face (more breakable things on it I guess.. ha ha), it reminded me of that verse in Proverbs and how it’s probably true that we feel more at risk of a heart hurt than a physical hurt in day to day life. 


It’s not often we’re gonna cop a jab to the face is it,  but it can be pretty often that our heart is ‘jabbed’.  Whether it be intentional or deliberate, it hurts and does tend to cause us to guard it.  I read something yesturday about how silly that ‘Sticks & stones’ poem is.   Names DO hurt us… and can often cause more lasting wounds than a physical jab.

What I choose to take from this knowledge though is that when you recognize how easily someone’s unkind or thoughtless words and actions can hurt you,  it makes you more aware of your own. 

Proverbs 18:21 – Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.

Proverbs 12:18 – There is one whose rash words are like sword thrusts, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.
This one is a life verse I choose to live by. .. I now recognize & claim the gifting that God has put in my heart. .. to heal the brokenhearted.  It’s a tough gig to be honest as to have a real needs awareness you need to ask to have your heart broken for what breaks His.  This is required for me to best be able to help in the healing process of whoever’s life I’m speaking into,  but can be emotionally taxing.  Clearly these people are always going to be those I care about deeply, so not just the sadness of the situation,  but the heartache of my friend can be gut wrenching. 

This in itself is just another reason why I need to guard my heart, as the enemy does love to swoop in when you’re low and send a nice hot arrow in. If I allow it to penetrate me, it can put me out of action to help others. 

Another element of boxing that parallels into everyday life, as well as spiritual battles, is the correct stance.  It’s important to have the correct stance in order to be stable and have full body movement. .. not only to deliver your punches,  but deflect any blows.  If we don’t take the correct stance, we’ll be unstable & unprepared.

Stay alert, stand firm in the faith, show courage, be strong.

1 Corinthians 16:13

So.. in short… get on the full armor of God… (and maybe some boxing gloves. )


Developing a hatred for sin

Deep title right ?  Well, it’s certainly a deep issue and one that was, amongst other things, looked at in one of my BC lectures today.  I’m currently working my way through the subject, ‘Jesus’ Leadership Style’ and when looking at the area of our sin issues, something was really revealed to me about a facet of going through these issues that can be quite difficult.

When we have a particular area of sin that we struggle with… let’s just look at gossiping for example, it’s best for us to recognise it as the weakness in us that it is, and then ask The Lord to break out heart for what breaks His, and in turn, give us a hatred of that sin.  This is a great method if you really apply it, as you allow God to get into that area of your life, work on you and teach you how to change.  (One of Jesus’ best styles of leadership… He didn’t just tell us what.. he told us how.. and gave us the power to do it.)

However, it can greatly effect your friendships and relationships in general.  eg.  If you liked to have a good ‘ole gossip sesh with a particular girlfriend, and that girlfriend isn’t on-board with your recognition of gossiping being a sin issue that needs God’s hand in changing, you’re going to end up with issues with that friend.


The Bible explains that relationships can have a powerful effect upon us.  In 1 Cor 15:33 it says “Evil company corrupts good habits.” and on the positive side, Proverbs 27:17 says, “As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend”

Looking more closely at sin issues, an illustration that was used today was of a house and how we can tend to have that ‘nice room’.  In older style houses it was usually the front living room.  That was where the ‘good’ furniture was, and the cabinets with the good crystal were displayed etc.  We’d bring guests into that room coz it was always kept neat & tidy.  The  rest of the house could look like a bomb had gone off, but that room was always respectable.  We can attempt to present ourselves to God & others in that way too.  We’ve got a ‘front room’ that’s ‘got it all together’. …  a bit like a Sunday selves and a Monday-Saturday selves.  At church on Sunday we’re perfectly put together, quietly spoken, patient, dependable, loyal (& lots more complimentary adjectives), but through the week we’re a loose canon.

We need to allow God into all of our ‘rooms’ and allow him to do a Reno on us.  Allow him into those back rooms, the ones we like to keep hidden.. the anger room, the selfish room, the gossiping room, the inappropriate room… or whatever your particular sin issues are.

Renos are dirty and dusty things…  not pleasant to live through, uncomfortable, painful, pushes us out of our comfort zone and sometimes past our point of ‘I’m gonna lose it’.  It’s the same when we allow God to do a reno on us.  It’s not gonna be pleasant, but we know that God sees us as the finished product.  He doesn’t see the peeling wall paper, sagging ceiings and tatty carpet… He sees fresh paint, beautiful ornate features and glossy polished floorboards.

I believe it’s also really beneficial to remember that God has a renovation shedule mapped out for our lives.  We’ll never be completely done until we’re standing in His presence in Glory… and I for one want to let Him deal with my ‘rooms’ on this side of eternity. (even when it hurts a bit..or a lot). I know I always harp on about it, but this is just another important reason why we need to stay in constant communication with The Holy Spirit.  We’re constantly ‘putting rooms onto our houses’ and new sin issues are going to come up for us, and we’re not always going to find it easy to let God into every room.

In Romans 7 Paul gives us a very encouraging word when he tells us : What then shall we say? That the law is sin? By no means! Yet if it had not been for the law, I would not have known sin. For I would not have known what it is to covet if the law had not said, “You shall not covet.”But sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, produced in me all kinds of covetousness. For apart from the law, sin lies dead. I was once alive apart from the law, but when the commandment came, sin came alive and I died. 10 The very commandment that promised life proved to be death to me. 11 For sin, seizing an opportunity through the commandment, deceived me and through it killed me. 12 So the law is holy, and the commandment is holy and righteous and good.

13 Did that which is good, then, bring death to me? By no means! It was sin, producing death in me through what is good, in order that sin might be shown to be sin, and through the commandment might become sinful beyond measure. 14 For we know that the law is spiritual, but I am of the flesh, sold under sin. 15 For I do not understand my own actions. For I do not do what I want, but I do the very thing I hate. 16 Now if I do what I do not want, I agree with the law, that it is good. 17 So now it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me. 18 For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. 19 For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. 20 Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me.

21 So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. 22 For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, 23 but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members.24 Wretched man that I am! Who will deliver me from this body of death?25 Thanks be to God through Jesus Christ our Lord! So then, I myself serve the law of God with my mind, but with my flesh I serve the law of sin.

Yes, sorry that the gold nugget was in the last line, but hey… it was a good read for you anyway.  :0)

Another great illustration of how we can best be an effective Christ follower is to remember that we have the Power of Christ flowing through us, and when we allow sin issues to take hold of us, it creates ‘blockages’.  The Lord will simply not be able to work in and through us with the most effective results while these ‘road blocks’ are there.

Ok peeps…  I’m signing off for now.  As usual, I could type on you simply ages.  I’m continually blown away by how much I learn anew and am reminded of in each and every lecture or bible study session.

What I learnt or was reminded of today – I’m a living breathing construction site !!  (PS.  I wear a pink hardhat)

Scripture I’m soaking in today – Ephesians 2 :10 – For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.








40th b’day celebration # 1 * CRUISE *

Hi there blog loving peeps !!

Yes, it’s been a while between blogs but life has been cray cray busy.  This past weekend was a much anticipated event… cruising for 3 nights on Pacific Dawn with 11 of my girlfriends !!

To say it was AMAZEBALLS would actually be an understatement.  We all had such a blast !!  The food was great (& not just because we didn’t have to prepare it or clean up after it), the weather was great, the atmosphere was great…. but what made the weekend so memorable was the beautiful girls I shared the time with.


Simply boarding was a fun event in itself, seeing the reaction to the ship from those that hadn’t been on a cruiseship before.  Going out under the Gateway Bridge and experiencing the atmosphere of setting sail.  It was a tad windy up the top deck, but well worth the experience.

Our first dinner was in the Waterfront Restaurant.  There was a fair bit of movement from that particular spot on the boat, which didn’t sit too well with a few of the girls, but they powered on like the good fresh sailors they were. They view from our table was well worth every swell. (Of course, I personally LOVED every swell, but hey, that’s me.)

The particular cruise we chose was a Comedy cruise, but I don’t think any of  us attended any of the comedy events… we were just so darn entertaining on our own that we didn’t need to go to a show in order to have a great time.. LOL.  Seriously though…  we really did laugh sooooo much at times that there were sore tummy muscels.. and possibly some Depends could have come in handy…Bahahahahaha

To head down the fashion blog street for just a moment, I wore a new jumpsuit onboard that had only arrived the day before leaving. I hadn’t planned to wear it, but when it arrived in time, I thought..  YES.. this is the perfect outfit for my first official 40th birthday celebration.  A friend of mine who has a freak-tastic fashion blog called styleloving2  (CHECK IT OUT) had highly recommended these jumpsuits as being just so versatile.  I was unsure if i’d like the style so just ordered this one, but have since jumped back online and ordered another in black.  And hold on to your hats for the price peeps…  $15.40 with postage cost bringing the total to $24 !!!!  Miss 14 did my make up for me and then insisted on about 200 pictures being taken once I was ready.  I won’t spam you with them all, but here’s one.  And beside it….  my group of lovelies minus one while we were at Tangalooma, Moreton Island.


Our cruise began with a Sailing party which had a ‘White Bianco’ theme, which is why we’re all dressed in white in the above pic.  Jules is the rebel in Black.  :0)

Sunday involved eating (buffet breakky.. YAY), relaxing, napping, sunbaking, chats and D & Ms, walking, more eating, more napping, more chatting, lots of photos, some ice-cream, more walking (over 10,000 steps per day according to S-Health on my phone) and then dedicated prep time for the evening’s formal night with a Great Gatsby theme !!!  Now, THIS is where the real fun began.  More black feathers have never been seen before… and man did we LAUGH..  this is a shocking picture of me but it shows just how much we laughed.

This was also the night that my lovely girls organised a birthday cake for me.  It was super delicious and was almost polished off by the 12 of us.  There were also birthday balloons, but there’d been a communication breakdown, so they originally read ‘Happy Birthday Flora’  (LOL), but with some clever artistry, it was sorted out.  However, I think I’ll have the ‘Flora’ joke go on for many years to come.

We all headed into the ‘party’ part of the evening which was lots of fun, dancing & laughing ’til our sides ached.  Us schoolmums really can party it up with the best of them.  :0)

Monday morning saw us anchored out from Moreton Island.  Most of the girls were doing the Tangalooma wrecks snorkel tour at 12.30 so we headed ashore on the tender boats as soon as we had breakky and got ready.  It was a lovely warm day, but the girls still found the water freezing after a time and were very glad of their wetsuits.

Once back onboard in the late arv, we got distracted looking at some of the professional pics and I managed to completely skip lunch, hence why I was ravenous by 6.30pm.  The buffet was enjoyed that night more than at any other time.  New Zealand ice-cream was on the ship so that was a welcome treat on our last night.  I didn’t do as many stairs as I would have liked, but still did well staying on-track healthy-living-wise.  Minimal treats at the buffet.. and lots of walking.

While the cruise was a Moreton Bay only cruise, they had said all along that if the weather was fine we would head out of the bay and venture either up or down the coast. We actually did both… several times.  This is what shows on one of the TV channels onboard.


I didn’t want to not attend a ‘Movies under the stars’ while onboard, so on the last night, 4 or us were up on deck watching Fast and the Furious 7.  I have never seen 1-6, so I didn’t actually get much of the movie, and didn’t end up staying for the whole thing.

Disembarkation morning was a little strange as they had us all waiting in our designated waiting areas to be let off when they called out our group number, but things were going sooooooo slow… and then we realised some of our group had simply walked downstairs and gone straight off, so of course we did the same.

All in all… it was SUCH A GREAT TIME !!!  So many laughs, so many great chats with those that I see all the time, and those that I see rarely.  I was reminded often over the time that I am extremely blessed with the friends God has placed in my life.  Sadly, one of my dearest friends couldn’t be with us, but she was certainly with us in spirit.

Something I learnt or was reminded of this week – Friends are a huge blessing in ones life and should never be taken for granted.

Scripture I lent on during this time –

John 15 : 12 My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. 13 Greater love has no one than this: to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. 14 You are my friends if you do what I command. 15 I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.

John 15 “I am the true vine, and my Father is the vinedresser. Every branch in me that does not bear fruit he takes away, and every branch that does bear fruit he prunes, that it may bear more fruit.



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