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Positioned like a see-saw

I remember sitting under a teaching a few years back about how our posture as a disciple of Jesus Christ should be with one hand stretched upwards to someone in a mentoring capacity.. to someone who is further along in their walk with The Lord than us. Meanwhile, the other arm reaches down, ‘pulling up’, encouraging & discipling someone coming along behind us.  Someone that is a little further back in their walk with The Lord than where we are.

The person you’re reaching up to has a little more life experience than you, so is able to teach and help you through similar situations.  In turn, you can teach & help the one you are encouraging, because of the trials, struggles and victories you have walked through.

I also remember receiving an image about this, back when sitting under that teaching, of one long road with people littered all along it, all at different stages.  I probably should have drawn in it seeing as I wasn’t able to find something that I felt represented it, but this gives you an idea.


When I had this come to mind last night, the Holy Spirit gave me an image of a seesaw, but it wasn’t like one end was completely up and the other completely down…. it’s not normally positioned in that way, and I don’t believe it would be nearly as effective either.  I think the image of a set of scales where one end has a slightly heavier weight onboard than the other shows a more accurate picture of the common situation, but as the ‘weight’ part of the image makes no sense, I think the seesaw is better.


This one is more like it.

The person reaching down needs to have the HUMILITY required to fulfil this role in another’s life, while also having the WISDOM to take on this responsibility.

Something that simple cannot be in the equation is pridefulness !!!

Just because I like definitions, let’s look at some now…

First, a ‘secular’ definition of Humility –the quality of having a modest or low view of one’s importance.  While in essence, this is true, I don’t like it one bit as it doesn’t sit well with me when you consider that we are a temple of The Holy Spirit.  We have the power of Christ within us, so when I consider our ROLE in God’s Kingdom, we certainly do not have a low level of importance.  I guess what it comes down to though is the importance of that role, as opposed to the importance of us as a person.  That’s where the pridefulness can come into it.  If we are prideful about our own importance & think that that importance is  seperate to God, that’s when we will run into trouble.

A biblical definition of Humility  –God says when you are humble, you are free from pride and arrogance. You know that in your flesh you are inadequate, yet you also know who you are in Christ.  I LOVE this !!!  So so true !! Free from pride & arrogance !!

Now for Wisdom… the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgement; the quality of being wise.

Not bad…. let’s look at it from a biblical point of view though.

Wisdom begins and ends with the fear of the Lord. It isn’t a fear of being struck by lightning or fear of being struck dead but it’s a deep, abiding, holy reverence and respect for the Lord and for His Word, the Bible. The Book of Proverbs has more to say about wisdom than any other book in the Bible. For example in Proverbs 9:10 Solomon, who was the wisest man on earth, at least until Christ came, said that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” Where there is fear, there tends to be obedience and God has said He prefers obedience over sacrifice (1 Sam 15:22; Hosea 6:6). Sometimes obedience comes before understanding and when someone obeys what they know to be true, understanding usually follows. Wisdom begins with reverence for God and a fear for Him and His Word. That’s where wisdom begins. Where there is no fear of the Lord, there can never be any true wisdom. It’s just not possible.

Now, both these two traits can be tricky, and not always easy to uphold, especially in weakness during struggle.  It takes real DISCIPLINE to be HUMBLE & use WISDOM  to take the right path when in a struggle or under attack.


Two other words that I really think needs to come into the scenario is COMMITMENT & RESPONSIBILITY !!  We need to be there for our ‘person’ at all times, even at times of our own struggles.  The only way we can do that is by walking closely with The Lord, digging into The Word & being accountable.

As a mentor, your role is to teach and inspire by words and example, so you can come alongside someone in their personal development and learning development using your life, Christian experiences, and education as tools.. You are a role model to someone. This is a precious responsibility that is to be taken seriously, but also enjoyed. You need to be one who is growing in the Lord, and who takes His Word and precepts to heart and to life. Because someone is placing his or her trust as a counselor and teacher in you, you need to be real and growing to do this right. Therefore, you are the one the Lord will use to provide opportunities for spiritual learning, development, and growth.

Matthew 12:36 & 37 tell us … I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,  for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”  Words hold power peeps.. in so many ways, so be careful with your words !!!

If The Lord entrusts you with a ‘mentee’  (that’s probs not actually a word, but you know what I mean) then see it as the privilege that it is, and ENJOY it, but never ignore the commitment and the responsibility that goes along with it.

Oh.. and one last thing…. DO NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS RESPONSIBILITY !!  Treat it as the GIFT that it is.  You will grow through every moment as a mentor too… it’s not a one-way deal.  Another thing that has been evident in my walk and I believe I can pass onto others and it be of help, is this…  When God leads you in a different direction… be it towards a different person, or away from a person…. LISTEN TO HIM & ACT ON IT !!

Maybe you will be in a mentor type relationship with someone for a very long time, but often you will not.  People with this need or gifting come in & out of our lives at GOD’S will, not ours !!!  We may be of help, or receive help from someone for a season and that be all God intended for each of our journeys.  When that happens…  seek confirmation from Him.. and then accept & move on, being ever watchful for new doors being opened.

Isn’t it FUN being a child of God !!!!!  Seriously, I LOVE IT !!!!  So much to learn, grow in and become !!!!

Blessings peeps !!!  xox



Taking a biblical stance and sticking to it :0)

So, before I delve in, I want to make it clear that this is an ongoing journey for me… and will be until the day Christ returns or calls me home.  I strive to live by and stand by biblical principals in all facets of life, but I’m human and sometimes I let my human-ness get in the way.  That’s when I need to draw near to The Lord, repent and get back on track.

So, what is on my heart today?  The LGBT community and what our attitude as Christ followers needs to be.  Now, don’t get me wrong…  I don’t know that I’m 100% correct on where I’m choosing to go with this, but it’s how I feel lead by The Lord to go forward, so I’m going to share it with you all.


Now, I wholeheartedly believe that we, as Christ followers, are called to love everyone in the LGBT community, as well as they’re supporters.  That is our job.. to show God’s love to our neighbours.  We are also called to save the lost… well, actually, technically, we are called to obedience… the Holy Spirit does the saving.  

These are some of the scriptures that I’ll be looking at.  I’m using all KJV references as that’s the closest to original text, unless you are fluent in Greek or Latin (which I’m not).

Leviticus 18:22, Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.

Leviticus 20:13,  If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.

1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,

10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Romans 1:26-28,  For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

Now, before anyone tells me I have taken verses out of biblical or historical context, I haven’t.  I have read the surrounding scriptures also as well as taken into consideration the historical and cultural context.  The Leviticus passages are GOD speaking directly to Moses, no translation over thousands of years as people love to claim of other scripture references about this topic.  I also realise that some of the references speak to temple prostitutes and worship of the fertility gods.  I still believe God issues the same guidelines for all of us.  

I’m not simply taking a stand on homosexuality, but also the other references in these passages…  of nakedness with close family members, people using mediums etc, worshipping other Gods, laying with your husband during menstruation,  cursing your Father or Mother, Adultery, laying with animals.. and more.  I’m not saying I get this all right, but I can’t stand by one thing in the scriptures and not stand by another.  That screams Hypocrite.  It also can be a very slippery slope to try and justify one thing when there are a whole pile of other things on the list too.   For example, if one were to argue that homosexuals are not in sin when they act on their sexual desires, are they also saying that idolatry is ok, are they saying that adultery is ok.. or thieves, drunks or swindlers?

I don’t have to simply try and put myself in the place of family members of those that identify as one of LGBT…. I actually AM in that position.  (I have never even tried to put myself in the place of the actual people who identify as these as I really believe we cannot understand their standpoint at all.. we can imagine, but I don’t think we can ever truly understand their feelings, struggles, pains etc etc.).  If one of my children for example were to come to us in years to come and say that they were gay, I would certainly hope that I would have no trouble in the slightest continuing to love them AS THEY WERE…  but that doesn’t mean I would accept their choice.  The definition of acceptance is ‘the process or fact of being received as adequate, valid or suitable.’  These words scream ‘settling’ to me.  I don’t want a suitable parter for my daughter, I want THE partner that God had put aside for her all along.  I certainly don’t want adequate… that just screams ‘this one will do’.  Um, NO…  I want the BEST partners for my children.   So, what I’m saying is… I would love them as I always have, I would love their partner if there was to be one.. but you bet your butt I’d be praying every waking hour for them to be freed from that bondage.  I would be fighting for them in the spiritual realm.  I would hand them over to God because I KNOW HE is one only one who can heal them.

The family member I spoke of above identifies as Transgender.  To clarify, this family member is not a believer, so I cannot even begin to expect them to uphold Godly standards.  That would be beyond unrealistic.  We can only continue to pray for them and to extend a loving hand to them in the hope that we will be the best Godly example that we can be and that if a time comes where they feel convicted of their sin, then they have someone they can go to straight away, with no fear of ridicule or judgement.    As far as acceptance goes.. and man, isn’t that word thrown around a lot lately…  I will accept the person, but I WILL NOT accept the sin…. I love them far too much for that.   We are never defined by our sin, so therefore I won’t treat them according to their sin.  They are God’s purchased possession, created in His image, and deserve to be treated as such.


Blessings xox

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