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Life is continuing….

Oh my goodness, if I’d left it another two days, it would have been an entire month between blogs…that’s downright SLACK !!!

So much has been going on.. which does help to explain my slackness in the blogging department.

The highlights are –

  • Baby Boy Lucas is now HOME and powering on like the little warrior he has proven himself to be.  He’s settling in at home, putting on weight, getting to know his big brother, and is having his first immunisations today.

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  • I scored myself a not very pleasant intercostal injury about a month ago and am actually still suffering from that.  However, it IS improving (PRAISE GOD !!) so things ARE on the up & up.  I think I did it because I did either too many sit ups, or did sit ups incorrectly.  I had both an ultrasound and an X-ray on my right side chest/ribs etc but it didn’t show anything.  As a result, I’ve had to change my exercise routine …  for the first two weeks, I couldn’t do ANYTHING.  I am pleased to say though that I must have been doing just enough to keep the weight loss train going as the number has continued to drop slowly each Tuesday morning for my weigh-in.
  • We are now down to only two weeks and two days until we sail far far away across the sea !!!  Our renewed passports finally arrived so this is a relief.  I cannot even tell you how excited & humbled I am to know that I get to enjoy two weeks ‘off the job’.  No cleaning, cooking, washing….  Thank you Jesus !!!
  • Sadly there is ups and downs (more downs)  in family over the last few weeks that look to be continuing for a while.  However, God is teaching me a lot throughout.  It’s so easy to see someone’s actions as selfishness on the surface, but when looking deeper, you can expose emotional issues that deserve additional care.  Also, sadly, it is human nature to ‘arc up’ when someone does something to upset you, when in fact, we’ve been commissioned to Love thy neighbour, repay bad with GOOD, do all we can to expand God’s Kingdom, and most importantly, be the LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS !!!
  • DH is really enjoying having his aeroplane and being able to go up to the airfield whenever he can and go for a fly IN HIS OWN PLANE.  He’s been waiting a very long time for this and is LOVING IT !!  He’s also made a nice group of friends up there, which is just as much a part of the whole ‘scene’ he’s been wanting to be apart of for so long. They sit around with their drinks and discuss all things ‘planes’.  I’m really really happy for him.  & as you can see, the kids are enjoying it too.

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  • The biggest homeschool excursion (78 people) I have ever organised went off without a hitch (or any drownings)… Woot Woot !!

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  • Miss 14’s dance comps all went very well.  Now to enjoy the break before it all starts again in Feb 2016.
  • The 2016 homeschool journey has been decided on which is also a weight off my shoulders.  The older two kiddos are currently working through diagnostic testing for next year and are doing very well with them.

So there you go, that basically brings you up to speed, to a degree, on our lives.

Even amongst the ups and downs of ‘life’ I love how God makes ‘lessons’ out of all situations, good & bad.  I’ve also been reading Jefferson Bethke’s Jesus>Religion which is really opening up my view on things.

Blessings xox

We’re plowing an oval field and our triangle is wonky.

So today’s blog is coming at the end of an emotional day of struggle within me …  struggles that wouldn’t have been noticeable to anyone around me at any time today…   Many emotions.. frustration, sadness, confusion, fear, …..however I don’t like admitting to that one as it is a struggle in itself for me as I know that fear is the opposite of faith,…. impatience, guilt over wanting to control things, craving the man that God created my Husband to be… and well, so much more.

I’ve been doing some reading up on the topic of being married to an unbeliever.  I’ve done this many times over the years, but it is a tough one as we don’t fit ‘the mould’ of most diagrams on the topic.  My husband doesn’t have an issue with me going to church.. in fact he quite likes to attend, he has no issue with me tithing and quite often he will give, he has no issue with my Christian friends, he not only has no issue with me attending bible studies etc, but attends one himself with other men once a fortnight.   So it’s here where wives with a, shall we say, completely non-believing husband, would tell me to maybe pull my head in and get over it.

Don’t get me wrong, I know that in many ways I AM blessed with the Husband God chose for me.  We’ve travelled a very long and rocky road to get to where we are today, and even as hard as a day like today was, believe me, there has been far worse, days with far far less hope in them…. actually some days that appeared to have NO hope in them.  I can very clearly see how far God has worked in me,  in our marriage, in our family and in my DH, and I am beyond thankful for that.  I just need to remember to ALWAYS focus on that… especially in tough times like today.

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When your husband focuses so much on negative things in the world, and let’s face it, there’s plenty to focus on, while chosing to place no trust in God’s hand in ALL things, it’s TOUGH !!!  When your husband tells you that your faith in God is not enough to solve the particular problems that he tends to focus on, it’s TOUGH !!  It’s tough because I KNOW that I KNOW that I KNOW that God’s is so much more than enough to handle all that is going on in the world today.  I lean on the scripture that tells me that Jesus came that we may have life, and have it to the full !! and Jeremiah 29, 11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

I am greatly comforted … but if I’m honest, sometimes struggle with….  the knowledge that I don’t have to be stuck in useless struggle when it comes to getting my husband to fully share/join me in my walk with The Lord.  I know that all I need to do is fulfil my biblical role in my marriage, and God will do the rest.  My responsibility toward my Husband remains just what it has always been: to love and cherish in every circumstance. The Bible says, “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” (Ephesians 5:33)

I can be at peace because I already have the Lord working for me. He is much more powerful than anything I could say to convert my husband, working through the mystical union in one flesh that the Bible teaches. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery – but I am talking about Christ and the church.” (Ephesians 5:31,32) That is why Paul could speak of the husband and wife sanctifying, of making holy, one another: “For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her husband .” (1 Corinthians 7:14)

In other words, I can stop trying to change DH, which causes strife in our home, and start believing for a miracle instead. God is working to convert DH through me, but by my actions much more than by my words. God may even prefer to do the work without my words. “Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives.” (1 Peter 3:1.2)

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God has sent the Holy Spirit to change DH. I can’t convert him. No one else but the Holy Spirit can, because matters of faith are unreasonable to the natural mind: “The man without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God, and they are foolishness to him, and he cannot understand them, because they are spiritually discerned.” (1 Corinthians 2:14)

It takes God Himself to convince people to believe. So I chose to release DH to God and allow the Holy Spirit to work. My responsibility is to be a faithful witness, not just sharing the truth but living it. Letting the life of Christ in me minister that love which will bring me and DH into that holy union that God has ordained for our marriage.

For me as a wife, being a faithful witness means respecting my husband’s role as the head of the family by being submissive to his authority. “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” (Ephesians 5:22-24)

Is that a tough one at times?  HECK YES when what I think he’s wanting to teach our children is nothing by Negative Ned Caboose !! BUT I lean on God’s amazing plan for DH and chose to focus on that, rather than the reality of the right now.

My title talks about an oval field..  I came up with that title after reading a story about a tennessee farmer who hitched a mule and an ox together to plow a field.  The story is an illustration of being unequally yoked.  When someone later asked him how it worked, he said, “well, it would have been all right if my field had been round instead of square, because we sure spent most of the time going in circles.”  It got me thinking of my own situation with DH and I had no choice but to come to the conclusion that we don’t have EXACTLY this problem, as quite often there will be periods of ‘straight plowing’ in our lives together.  It’s when we have some ‘curved’ plowing  periods that we kinda end up with an oval shaped plowed field.

The 2nd part of my title mentions a wonky triangle.  Now, this speaks to an illustration that I think of on a daily basis… I’m sure you all know it… that if a husband and a wife are walking towards God on seperate sides of a triangle, with God position at the point, then logic alone tells us that as they walk closer to God, they also walk closer to each other.

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We all know this first diagram… the way I wish my marriage was, but in reality, it’s more like the second diagram, but in reverse… I could only find this image to make my point, but you get the idea of my wonky triangle.  If you wanna get technical, I think that makes it a scalene triangle .  I don’t know if this diagram tells it correctly though for our situation though, as I wouldn’t say that DH and I are far from each other in general… not at all in fact. We have a very good relationship…  we are each other’s best friend.

More great encouragement for me comes from the fantastic Sisters in Christ that I do life with.  How I would go through life without them, I have no idea.  As far as I’m concerned, it’s just yet another thing that speaks to God providing for us in EVERY situation.

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Blessings peeps !!  xox

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