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Positioned like a see-saw

I remember sitting under a teaching a few years back about how our posture as a disciple of Jesus Christ should be with one hand stretched upwards to someone in a mentoring capacity.. to someone who is further along in their walk with The Lord than us. Meanwhile, the other arm reaches down, ‘pulling up’, encouraging & discipling someone coming along behind us.  Someone that is a little further back in their walk with The Lord than where we are.

The person you’re reaching up to has a little more life experience than you, so is able to teach and help you through similar situations.  In turn, you can teach & help the one you are encouraging, because of the trials, struggles and victories you have walked through.

I also remember receiving an image about this, back when sitting under that teaching, of one long road with people littered all along it, all at different stages.  I probably should have drawn in it seeing as I wasn’t able to find something that I felt represented it, but this gives you an idea.

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When I had this come to mind last night, the Holy Spirit gave me an image of a seesaw, but it wasn’t like one end was completely up and the other completely down…. it’s not normally positioned in that way, and I don’t believe it would be nearly as effective either.  I think the image of a set of scales where one end has a slightly heavier weight onboard than the other shows a more accurate picture of the common situation, but as the ‘weight’ part of the image makes no sense, I think the seesaw is better.

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This one is more like it.

The person reaching down needs to have the HUMILITY required to fulfil this role in another’s life, while also having the WISDOM to take on this responsibility.

Something that simple cannot be in the equation is pridefulness !!!

Just because I like definitions, let’s look at some now…

First, a ‘secular’ definition of Humility –the quality of having a modest or low view of one’s importance.  While in essence, this is true, I don’t like it one bit as it doesn’t sit well with me when you consider that we are a temple of The Holy Spirit.  We have the power of Christ within us, so when I consider our ROLE in God’s Kingdom, we certainly do not have a low level of importance.  I guess what it comes down to though is the importance of that role, as opposed to the importance of us as a person.  That’s where the pridefulness can come into it.  If we are prideful about our own importance & think that that importance is  seperate to God, that’s when we will run into trouble.

A biblical definition of Humility  –God says when you are humble, you are free from pride and arrogance. You know that in your flesh you are inadequate, yet you also know who you are in Christ.  I LOVE this !!!  So so true !! Free from pride & arrogance !!

Now for Wisdom… the quality of having experience, knowledge, and good judgement; the quality of being wise.

Not bad…. let’s look at it from a biblical point of view though.

Wisdom begins and ends with the fear of the Lord. It isn’t a fear of being struck by lightning or fear of being struck dead but it’s a deep, abiding, holy reverence and respect for the Lord and for His Word, the Bible. The Book of Proverbs has more to say about wisdom than any other book in the Bible. For example in Proverbs 9:10 Solomon, who was the wisest man on earth, at least until Christ came, said that “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.” Where there is fear, there tends to be obedience and God has said He prefers obedience over sacrifice (1 Sam 15:22; Hosea 6:6). Sometimes obedience comes before understanding and when someone obeys what they know to be true, understanding usually follows. Wisdom begins with reverence for God and a fear for Him and His Word. That’s where wisdom begins. Where there is no fear of the Lord, there can never be any true wisdom. It’s just not possible.

Now, both these two traits can be tricky, and not always easy to uphold, especially in weakness during struggle.  It takes real DISCIPLINE to be HUMBLE & use WISDOM  to take the right path when in a struggle or under attack.

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Two other words that I really think needs to come into the scenario is COMMITMENT & RESPONSIBILITY !!  We need to be there for our ‘person’ at all times, even at times of our own struggles.  The only way we can do that is by walking closely with The Lord, digging into The Word & being accountable.

As a mentor, your role is to teach and inspire by words and example, so you can come alongside someone in their personal development and learning development using your life, Christian experiences, and education as tools.. You are a role model to someone. This is a precious responsibility that is to be taken seriously, but also enjoyed. You need to be one who is growing in the Lord, and who takes His Word and precepts to heart and to life. Because someone is placing his or her trust as a counselor and teacher in you, you need to be real and growing to do this right. Therefore, you are the one the Lord will use to provide opportunities for spiritual learning, development, and growth.

Matthew 12:36 & 37 tell us … I tell you, on the day of judgment people will give account for every careless word they speak,  for by your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”  Words hold power peeps.. in so many ways, so be careful with your words !!!

If The Lord entrusts you with a ‘mentee’  (that’s probs not actually a word, but you know what I mean) then see it as the privilege that it is, and ENJOY it, but never ignore the commitment and the responsibility that goes along with it.

Oh.. and one last thing…. DO NOT TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS RESPONSIBILITY !!  Treat it as the GIFT that it is.  You will grow through every moment as a mentor too… it’s not a one-way deal.  Another thing that has been evident in my walk and I believe I can pass onto others and it be of help, is this…  When God leads you in a different direction… be it towards a different person, or away from a person…. LISTEN TO HIM & ACT ON IT !!

Maybe you will be in a mentor type relationship with someone for a very long time, but often you will not.  People with this need or gifting come in & out of our lives at GOD’S will, not ours !!!  We may be of help, or receive help from someone for a season and that be all God intended for each of our journeys.  When that happens…  seek confirmation from Him.. and then accept & move on, being ever watchful for new doors being opened.

Isn’t it FUN being a child of God !!!!!  Seriously, I LOVE IT !!!!  So much to learn, grow in and become !!!!

Blessings peeps !!!  xox

 

 

Life is continuing….

Oh my goodness, if I’d left it another two days, it would have been an entire month between blogs…that’s downright SLACK !!!

So much has been going on.. which does help to explain my slackness in the blogging department.

The highlights are –

  • Baby Boy Lucas is now HOME and powering on like the little warrior he has proven himself to be.  He’s settling in at home, putting on weight, getting to know his big brother, and is having his first immunisations today.

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  • I scored myself a not very pleasant intercostal injury about a month ago and am actually still suffering from that.  However, it IS improving (PRAISE GOD !!) so things ARE on the up & up.  I think I did it because I did either too many sit ups, or did sit ups incorrectly.  I had both an ultrasound and an X-ray on my right side chest/ribs etc but it didn’t show anything.  As a result, I’ve had to change my exercise routine …  for the first two weeks, I couldn’t do ANYTHING.  I am pleased to say though that I must have been doing just enough to keep the weight loss train going as the number has continued to drop slowly each Tuesday morning for my weigh-in.
  • We are now down to only two weeks and two days until we sail far far away across the sea !!!  Our renewed passports finally arrived so this is a relief.  I cannot even tell you how excited & humbled I am to know that I get to enjoy two weeks ‘off the job’.  No cleaning, cooking, washing….  Thank you Jesus !!!
  • Sadly there is ups and downs (more downs)  in family over the last few weeks that look to be continuing for a while.  However, God is teaching me a lot throughout.  It’s so easy to see someone’s actions as selfishness on the surface, but when looking deeper, you can expose emotional issues that deserve additional care.  Also, sadly, it is human nature to ‘arc up’ when someone does something to upset you, when in fact, we’ve been commissioned to Love thy neighbour, repay bad with GOOD, do all we can to expand God’s Kingdom, and most importantly, be the LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS !!!
  • DH is really enjoying having his aeroplane and being able to go up to the airfield whenever he can and go for a fly IN HIS OWN PLANE.  He’s been waiting a very long time for this and is LOVING IT !!  He’s also made a nice group of friends up there, which is just as much a part of the whole ‘scene’ he’s been wanting to be apart of for so long. They sit around with their drinks and discuss all things ‘planes’.  I’m really really happy for him.  & as you can see, the kids are enjoying it too.

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  • The biggest homeschool excursion (78 people) I have ever organised went off without a hitch (or any drownings)… Woot Woot !!

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  • Miss 14’s dance comps all went very well.  Now to enjoy the break before it all starts again in Feb 2016.
  • The 2016 homeschool journey has been decided on which is also a weight off my shoulders.  The older two kiddos are currently working through diagnostic testing for next year and are doing very well with them.

So there you go, that basically brings you up to speed, to a degree, on our lives.

Even amongst the ups and downs of ‘life’ I love how God makes ‘lessons’ out of all situations, good & bad.  I’ve also been reading Jefferson Bethke’s Jesus>Religion which is really opening up my view on things.

Blessings xox

Being in good company

I’m gonna be honest. .  I’m struggling tonight. 
I want to be walking the right path.. I NEED to be walking the right path as I have little eyes watching me and little ears listening to me.  (and some big eyes & ears too)
However these very encouraging facts don’t make the path any easier.  The bumps are still there,  the ‘stones’ are still thrown, the misconceptions of me by others are still there. 
I solidly believe that I not only witness to my children through things that I say,  but possibly even more so by things that I DON’T.  When I’m abused by a family member and I don’t respond in like tone or with harsh words.  When I’m treated like a ‘goodie-two-shoes’ but choose to stay silent and not ‘defend myself’.
When I’m outright verbally attacked,  but refuse to take the bait and retaliate. .. they see that.   & you know what else they see… the frustration on the person’s face when I won’t lower myself to their level. 
Isn’t it interesting (& frustrating) that we can KNOW that God’s opinion is the only one that matters and yet the darts fired by others still hurt.  I often wish that I was impervious to these comments etc but I also know that I am taught a lesson through everything single dig at me,  every single comment made. .. and every single not-so-subtle insult on Facebook. 
I actually started this blog last night but the fact that I stopped part way through turned out to be a blessing in itself as I actually needed to be reminded of my own words when dealing with someone today.  
Praise The Lord it was actually a really great day today spent at the beach with Miss 14 & niece 17 (well great day except for the sunburnt back of the legs. .. what on earth).  Lots of time to think and talk to Jesus while the girls were out paddle boarding.  Something about being at the beach (I think it’s actually in any natural setting) that gets me closer to God.

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I am constantly blown away of late with the relevance of each mornings devotion and how it has been speaking directly into current situations & struggles. If you don’t do a morning devotion,  I’d really encourage you to as it is just the BEST way to start the day. 
So, getting back to my title. .. with all that I’ve been dealing with in days of late… I am comforted knowing that Jesus was hated,  he was ridiculed,  he was treated as a fool… so when I feel treated like this. . I know I’m in good company. 
Blessings peeps xox

Eat clean.. train dirty… trust God

Eat clean… train dirty… Trust God !! So… after an up & down kinda day. . I’ve decided this is going to be this season’s hashtag.
I have had 2 opportunities in recent days to be pretty naughty with my clean eating plan. .. and I am so happy to say that on both occasions,  I was able to either stick with my clean eating. . Or in the one instance I didn’t,  it was such a minor ‘slip up’ that I didn’t even feel the need to beat myself up over it.
I am actually really pleased with my resolution on this.  I just know that I know that God is providing me with the strength and perseverance I’m asking for,  as I normally wouldn’t be able to resist these ‘treats’. As I said on a previous blog entry. . My bodies likes & dislikes are changing.
I’m also loving having my 17yr niece to bounce ideas off. She is a vegetarian recently having gone completely vegan, so she is full of fab healthy ideas.  She seriously makes the best healthy snacks… that you wouldn’t even think are healthy.

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(Ps.. She didn’t actually make THESE exact ones. . But hers do look just as yummy)
I’m also experimenting with my new Nutri-infusion which has been amazing !! I am really so happy with it. . It actually DOES do everything they say it does, which can be rare for things bought off the tv.  A friend  and I did a shop at the local fruit & veg market yest,  so I’m well & truly stocked up for some yummy nutritious goodness in smoothy form.

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This actually was my daughter’s first smoothy attempt, but I used her pic seeing as my smoothy had spinach in it so therfore wasn’t this pretty colour.

I read some interesting information last night about drinking berry based drinks with your food as it assists with digestion due to the acidic content.
Here’s some healthy info for you all on this and other healthy gut foods. …

What is the key to good gut health? The answer is bacteria, millions of which inhabit the digestive tract breaking down food, helping to propel food through the digestive tract and providing protection against harmful invading organisms.

Foods that are high in fibre, rich in nutrients such as omega-3 fatty acids, or that contain live probiotics, will encourage the growth of health-promoting bacteria colonies and support overall equilibrium balance in the digestive tract. Eating foods that are overly refined, processed or low in fibre will meanwhile place additional strain on the digestive system, potentially disrupting the important balance of health-promoting bacteria.

Berries are an excellent food for digestive health. They provide a good source of fibre, antioxidants, and polyphenols, which can selectively favour beneficial colonies of bacteria in the digestive tract.

Recent research on polyphenols has shown they interact with beneficial species of bacteria (similar to pre-biotics, which “feed” the good bacteria). The interactions encourage healthy bacteria growth. All types of berries, whether fresh or frozen, contain polyphenols.

Seaweed & chia seeds, as well as cruciferous vegetables (kale, cabbage, broccoli and silverbeet, to name just a few) are excellent foods for gut health; they provide various phytonutrients, vitamins and minerals, as well as a good source of fibre. Phytonutrients can benefit the gut by increasing the balance of good bacteria and also contain anti-inflammatory and anti-oxidant properties.

The fibre content of cruciferous vegetables is particularly important as it can help move food through the digestive tract. The fibre in leafy greens in particular also promotes the growth of good bacteria. Pre-biotics are food sources for healthy bacteria; without them the healthy bacteria (probiotics) are unable to grow. Hence, the growth of beneficial colonies of bacteria is largely depending on the intake of both probiotic and pre-biotic foods.
Yoghurt is also fantastic but it should always taste sour, not sweet. The sourness is a reflection of the lactic-acid bacteria that have developed during the fermentation process in the milk.

Regular consumption of yoghurt can positively influence the balance of microflora in the gut, creating more of the “good guys”, such as lactobacillus and bifidobacterium probiotics. These types of probiotics can help manufacture B-complex vitamins, as well as vitamins A and K, which are great for overall health as well as playing a role in a well-functioning digestive tract. They also help boost the immune system and inhibit the growth of pathogenic bacteria.

Sadly (coz I don’t really like it) oily fish – such as salmon, sardines and mackerel are an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids, such as EPA, and DOHA. These fatty acids can play a vital role in healthy bowel function. They can work to lubricate the digestive tract and keep digestion flowing smoothly. They can also help to reduce inflammation and strengthen the intestinal lining, which can help to protect against gastrointestinal diseases.

& lastly in my disgestion lesson for tonight (lol)… Ginger is a traditional spice, revered throughout Asia for its ability to relieve gas and reduce abdominal bloating. In herbal medicine, it is considered to be an “intestinal spasmolytic” – in other words, a substance that can relax and sooth the digestive tract.

The active component of fresh ginger, known as gingerol contains anti-inflammatory and anti-microbial properties, which can alleviate symptoms associated with gastrointestinal discomfort.

Aren’t you all glad I’ve educated in this fascinating topic?  Well, if it doesn’t interest you,  try to get interested coz I can tell you that my body is a whole lot happier on a clean eating diet.
It does seem ‘un-fun’ at times,  but that usually only happens when your 1. Using boring ingredients,  or 2. Not thinking outside the box.
When it comes down to it,  it’s really all quite interesting and worth educating yourself on.
Ok peeps… that’s enough from me for tonight.
Blessings xox

Fi’s ‘War Room’ Review… spoiler alert… IT’S AWESOME !!

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After 6wks of waiting(Yes, I truly purchased my tickets that long ago)… Aug 29 finally rolled around and our group of 14 were off to see ‘War Room’.  I’m still under the weather a tad so that made the outing not quite as exciting as I would have liked, but I could have been half dead… I was not going to miss this movie!!

I will admit that I went with very high expectation, as I have loved the Kendrick brothers movies for years.  We have their triple play of Flywheel, Facing the Giants and Fireproof, as well as Courageous, on DVD and watch them regularly as a family.  They are just fantastic wholesome movies with great messages to ponder, no matter how many time you watch them.  So, going along to War Room with this high standard in mind, I was not surprised, but also very pleased to come away thinking that God had once again used these two men to produce a 1st class message.

The atmosphere within the cinemas was fantastic from the moment you walked in.  The crowd was clearly expectant for the message they were about to sit under.  The ages varied.. even within our own group, we had a Nanna, 2 Dads, 4 Mums, 3 kids and 2 young adults.  and so… we settled in with our movie snacks and prepared to just soak in all that God had for us in the next 2hrs.

Now, I LOVE Priscilla Shirer.. I have for a few years now.  I love her heart for the Word of God, I love her style of teaching … I love that she is REAL !!  I love that her teaching challengers me and encouragers me to get into the scriptures.  So, with this respect for Priscilla already in play, I was keen to see how she portrayed the character of Elizabeth Jordan in War Room.  Let’s just say she did not disappoint.  Seriously, you would never know she hadn’t formerly acted before, but I guess her public speaking for many years would have certainly given her the confidence to take on such a role.

War Room certainly is one of those movies where you really did know all that is was going to be about prior to going… well, that’s if you’re a crazy researcher like I am.  I knew it was predominantly about spiritual warfare.  Fighting the REAL enemy in our situations.  Getting ourselves, and our plans out of the way so that we leave God the room to fight for us, in the way that HE knows is best.  We all know that can be hard at times, to hand it all over and say ‘Lord, it’s yours, do what you want with it, I can’t do it on my own strength.’

The humility it requires is also huge.  There’s a particular scene in the movie where Elizabeth has received a txt from a friend saying that she’s just seen Tony (Elizabeth’s husband) at a restaurant with another woman.   Her reaction shows her to be tortured by this information..  feelings of hurt, frustration, disbelief, fear, anger would surely have been present.  The humility it takes to get in your War Room and hand over that situation to The Lord. .. to fight for your marriage, for your husband, for your family.  Believe me, I’ve been right there… as in basically right there…  I’ve known that my DH was in a tempting situation and that his heart was not right with The Lord, and it wasn’t right with me either.  I remember my first thoughts were to make phonecalls, to somehow interfere with the situation to prevent anything bad happening…. to use whatever power I had to intervene.  But Praise God, I had reached a point in my walk with The Lord where I knew my fighting had to be done in my War Room..  I had to hand it over to God and leave HIM in control.

I had to learn to pray for my DH, even when I felt hurt, angry, unloved and unappreciated.  It’s amazing what God can do with these situations.  Years back, when I was first learning these skills, I used to wonder ‘will I have to always do this, will it get easier?’ etc etc, but God has done amazing work within my DH.  Is he 100% walking with The Lord?  No.  but I have had no reason to feel insecure, question his actions when it comes to the respect of our relationship, or feel unloved for quite a long time now.

So, while I still need to be in my War Room and fight for my husband on a daily basis, it’s not over those topics that tear at my heart and cause hurt and insecurity.  I’m fighting for him because I know that who he is today is just one of the stages along the road to becoming the man that God created him to be.  I no longer whine and gripe about what he isn’t, or ask God why he chose a non-believer for me 21yrs ago, but pray into his POTENTIAL.  He has done nothing but flourish under this prayer method.

I can see that many women may not warm to the movie storyline… the submissive role as a wife that Elizabeth took on when she handed it all over to God.  I think a lot of that stems from the misunderstanding that many people have of being a submissive wife.  I proudly tell people I am a submissive wife….  sometimes just to get the reaction out of them so that I then have the opportunity to clarify it for them.  & once again, I’m submitting to the man God created my DH to be, not so much to the man he is right now.  I make it a daily choice to always see him through that lens… God’s lens… rather than society’s lens, who would probably label him with all sorts of unpleasantness.

Candace Cameron Bure’s book ‘Balancing it all’ opened up lots of debate about being a submissive wife.  I think Candace did a fantastic job in many many interviews when asked about this topic.  Feel free to YouTube search some of those.

Back to the movie…. the music was also fantastic… so good in fact that I bought the soundtrack on PlayStore on the way home.  :0)

The atmosphere that I spoke of when we first walked into the cinema only increased throughout the showing.  There’s something pretty downright cool about hearing an ‘Amen’ or a ‘Hallelujah’ called out in the middle of a cinema.  Add to that rounds of applause throughout the movie, but particularly at the close of the final scene.

Heading out into the foyer of the cinemas, we were met by the HUGE and I mean HUGE crowd heading into the next War Room session.  We knew so many people waiting to go in, from our church family, the young adults group, old neighbours, friends from way back…  it was just so encouraging after having seen the fantastic movie, to then come out and see so many that mean so much to us going along to see it too.

As part of our movie going plans, we had offered to others to go out for dinner with us after the movie.  I thought it would be the type of movie you’d want to chat about after.  While most had to get home to their families, one family who we actually haven’t seen for years took us up on the offer.  It was  great time of fellowship, blessed conversation and yummy food.  (I had pesto chicken on a bed of mashed potato, served with Brocolini and a creamy pesto sauce…  not exactly the healthiest meal ever… but it was to die for… and heck, it’s Saturday night… that’s splurge night.)

And so now it’s Sunday, the memories of the movie are still fresh, I’d go again in a heartbeat, but what’s been going around my head today is that I don’t want it to simply speak to people (me included) and us all SAY that this is how we need to live and fight our battles, but not actually put it into effect.  One of the first things Ms Clara talks about in the movie is putting a strategy in place.  Soldiers don’t just head out and wing it.  They study the enemy, examine their tactics and preferred weapons, and then plan accordingly.

This makes me think of Sun Tzu and his quote ;

“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know yourself but not the enemy, for every victory gained you will also suffer a defeat. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”

It also reminds me of the other thing we need to know.. the Word of God… sharper than a two edged sword.  Our best weapon in any battle… and that leads me into what I LOVE to talk about… Bible Study.  I LOVE to do them, LOVE to tell people about them, LOVE to recommend them to others, LOVE to research them… well, you get the idea.  It’s fine and dandy to have scripture up in your prayer close/War Room walls as Ms Clara does and as Elizabeth did in the movie (& I do too), but it’s also invaluable to KNOW your bible so well that you can pull on a scripture when needed, no matter where you are.

Personally, I find Bible Study the best way to do this, so below I’ll fill you in on the following which describes my Bible Study plan… and yes, it’s a Priscilla Shirer plan, so I’m taking no credit for it, but I’m more than happy to lap up God’s Word using her methods.  I know you will be blessed by it also.

5 Ps of bible study

Position yourself to hear from God (War Room/Prayer Closet)

I will stand at my watch and station myself on the ramparts; I will look to see what he will say to me, and what answer I am to give to this complaint. Habakkuk 2;1

Pour over the passage and paraphrase the major principals.  Mediate on them.  Put yourself in the scenario .  

Pull out the spiritual principals within that scripture.  Is there a command or a promise that you are ignoring?  Is there a character trait or attribute of God that he is trying to show you?

Pose the question.  Turn the spiritual principals back on yourself.  Am I heeding these commands or claiming these promises.

Plan obedience and pin down a date to obey. Strategise how you are going to obey.

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Remember, The Bible is ALIVE .. it’s not just black print on a white page.  The Holy Spirit causes it to jump off the page and speak right into our own situations.   Let’s You & I dive into it today and every day.   Let’s get strategising.

Blessings xox

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